In nature we are always aware of the threefold nature of things. Birth life and death, past, present and future, thought action and effect.
So it is with your life, transcendence starts with a threefold question.
1. Do you feel fulfilled in your life?
2. If not, do you know what you should do to become fulfilled?
3. Do you have the ability to make the changes that would bring fulfillment?
1. If you answered yes you would probably not have any interest in the next two questions and would not have the will to evolve.
2. If you answered Yes, then there is only one thing stopping you from gaining greater fulfillment and that is question 3. If you answered no, then there is a lot about yourself you have yet to learn.
3. This is probably the most important question. If you do not have the will to make changes in your life, sometimes quite drastic changes, you will not make the move into transcendence.
Only by overcoming your inner fears can you let go of the old, only then can the new come into existence.